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Cake day: August 29th, 2023

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  • A good saying I’ve ran into before, “If your monkey-mind gets distracted 1 million times, you just need to refocus 1million +1 times”. Meaning no matter how many times you get distracted you just gotta refocus 1 more time so you’ll always eventually win if you keep at it.




  • For the first part, no not a group therapy session lol. “thoughtful reception” is probably a better apt description. You can definitely have a level of control for how your opinion is received with your attitude and how you engage in a conversation. A space and how conversation is conducted usually sets a precedence, the tools available to you with how you interact with that content is another part of it.

    I was just looking for conversations about this style of social platform and the known problems that seem to inflict it. I want Lemmy to stay diverse and federated, I’m seeing a concerning trend of tribalism revolving around instance membership or interaction. As you said I can start a community if I’m looking for something else, which I have done. Starting a new corner of lemmy to stretch out in has been a wonderful experience and has helped me focus on something I want to be creative and engage with instead of wandering around Lemmy “all”.

    But, I can’t help but wonder if that’s the downfall. I’ve been instance hoping a lot lately, it’s amazing to see what’s been hidden that I’m not seeing and as spaces become more condensed or closed off through defederation the stark contrast between instances is only going to grow. Basically mini-reddits (the negative parts of it), instead of spaces being smaller to allow more chances to not drown out a differing opinion. So am I contributing to this or refuting it by making my own community? Do I have a chance to avoid the main opinions becoming the mindset that others want to follow when engaging or is it just an uphill battle because of the format of this social platform. A lot of really interesting and thoughtful responses in this post, exactly what I’m looking for in community discussions and there’s been barely any hate or downvotes. It’s been refreshing and given me plenty to think about.





  • hmm, well it’s unfortunately usually a “you pay for what you get”. If you’re not paying then you’re gonna end up as the product. I only have experience with “text now” which I’ve used in a pinch before and it has some limitations on the calls which you’ll usually end up running into on any app. I wouldn’t be surprised if there was some better ones out there. If you’re worried about what kind of App you’re downloading you might try the !privacy@lemmy.ml community as someone there might have a better source that isn’t constructed to mine your data.


  • I don’t know why people are downvoting you, might have better luck in something like a technology-centered community or putting some more information like what device or uses you have for it.

    If you’re looking for an app for a mobile device while connected to wifi, there are a lot out there but they are all pretty sketchy in my experience (thinking like text-now which offers a free limited number to use but privacy and ad-blocking get thrown out the window). If you’re looking for a messenger that doesn’t have a number associated with it, something like matrix that was suggested should work (or whatever preference the people you communicate the most with prefer).