InEnduringGrowStrong@sh.itjust.works

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  • Personally I use a ZFS pool in my Linux homelab that’s been rock solid. However the pucker factor would be high if a drive fails.

    I use a ZFS pool for my home stuff too.
    To minimize the pucker factor, I have an extra drive of the same capacity and I rotate through them in the mirror pool.
    It makes good practice replacing and resilvering drives and since it’s a mirror it’s also kind of an offline backup.
    Also, I had bought the initial drives at the same time and figured rotating though them would minimize the odds of failing around the same time.
    I’m much less wary of the whole thing now that I’ve resilvered the drives several times.








  • Sorry. It sucks.

    I’m not sure what you’re looking for, but it’s OK to be annoyed, pissed, sad or whatever.
    I don’t pretend to have a solution, merely that whatever you choose is fine.
    I haven’t been through your exact situation but sometimes, some people just don’t deserve a place in your life.

    It’s easy to think you owe him your presence just because he’s family, but really, you don’t.
    Neither do your kids.

    You’re not a burden. You deserve better.
    Your dad sounds like a narcissist, you’re not obligated to keep them in your life with how they seem to make you feel.