Happy to help! The fandom pages are absolute garbage, breezewiki really is a godsend.
I found out about it on here: https://libredirect.github.io/, I’m not sure how up to date it is, but there are definitely some other useful links to explore
If you’ve ever used a fan wiki for a video game or hobby you have likely experienced how bad a wiki larded down with ads can be.
A bit of an aside, but breezewiki.com is a great open sourced way to get away from this (their internal search doesn’t always work, but a search engine search for fandom name + breezewiki should do it)
The documentary is worth watching if you can access it.
The cops are unlikely to help you, wherever you are.
Instead, try social services, or a domestic abuse charity, they will be significantly more sympathetic and could potentially offer you support, or at least tools to try and deal with this situation.
The other thing is to protect yourself, go no contact or at least reduce it. It sounds from your short post that you are an adult and live in your own property - don’t let him in. If he has a key - change the locks. If he tries to break in then the police might help, try and gather as much evidence as you can (like a camera doorbell or other recording). Don’t answer any of his communication, if you can, block/delete him from all of your devices and social media. Personally, I would apply the same to your mother, that’s up to you, but it sounds like she’s at the very least enabling him, so isn’t looking out for your best interests, and you need to ask yourself if those are the kind of people you want in your life.
Life is too short to hang on to toxic people who harm us in the hope that they might change. Being related doesn’t make them worthy of your time energy or love. If they do eventually regret their actions and want to apologise and try to make amends, you can let them, or you can choose not to, both are valid.
Take care.
Because the powers that be and the systems they have in place (capitalism, Christian white supremacy, patriarchy, cis-heteronormativity) benefit in one way or another.
If they teach us that Julius Caesar was a bad guy and that it’s good he was defeated, then we might learn that our current leaders are often bad guys too, and that maybe we should do the same to them.
In the same way that if they teach us that Hitler took his inspiration for the holocaust from already firmly established American racism, we might learn that our own history is just as bad and should be fought against at all cost (which is also what we’re taught instead of the reality - the allies fought the Nazis because they threatened their own power, not because of an ideological disagreement).
That’s why we’re not taught (or only given a palatable token example) about working people fighting the owning class for basic rights, Black brown and Indigenous people fighting the Christian white supremacist establishment and winning, and other oppressed groups standing up to their oppressors (E: nor most of the atrocities they have and continue to commit).
Whitewashing history is always a deliberate act, and is always done in defence of the ruling class.
I don’t know if this counts, but in terms of “proper” condiments I generally just stick to mayo and strong mustard, so here’s a good all rounder dressing/dip/marinade I’ve been using a lot recently:
EDIT, though probably far too late for anyone to notice, but I’ve just realised I forgot to mention an important ingredient: 1/2 to 1 teaspoon of sugar (or honey, or maple, or anything sweet).
All in a jar you can close, shake well before each use, will last in the fridge for ages.
Can easily be upgraded or adjusted to taste, goes with anything you want to make taste vaguely Asian - salads or roasted/stir fried veg, noodles, rice, meat/substitute… I love it with melted butter on sweetcorn, or on a cold rice noodle salad.
The catch is that the love bomb goes away, and you become devalued after the love bomb. This is usually followed by a “discard phase”, where if you try to confront the behavior, you are rejected and made to feel at fault. After you’ve become upset by this, they will often start the cycle again to keep your loyalty.
To add to this point, to maybe enlighten people who haven’t experienced abuse and don’t understand how someone wouldn’t notice this or leave once they do - while love bombing you, an abuser will also slowly isolate you from everyone in your life you would turn to for support and make their opinions of the relationship seem unreliable.
Phrases like “it’s you and me against the world”, “no one understands us”, “they’re jealous of what we have so want to break us up” are big red flags because they’re the foundations of destroying your trust in anyone but the abuser, and making you entirely dependant on them for validation, which when not love bombing, they will deprive you of to break you down further (gaslighting).
Love bombing is the first step towards coercive control.
When the “other motives” are literal propaganda that helps maintain inequality at the expense of the people it exploits under the pretence of “help”, it is black and white to anyone who isn’t too busy licking boot.
How? How is directly and unashamedly exploiting poor people for views and profit (while promoting yourself as “self made” no less) better than whatever it is you’re referencing (presumably just another version of poor people being exploited for views and profit)??
Why do you feel the need to defend the indefensible?
Altruistic implies he was doing it out of the kindness of his heart and got nothing out of it, when in reality he was making poverty porn for profit and to further his own career.
I would say the most beneficial thing you could do for yourself instead of investing energy in to avoiding “feminine” workouts, is to work on unlearning the toxic masculinity that has created these false, sexist, and bioessentialist ideas in your mind in the first place.
Once you’ve done that you’ll be free to consider what exercises actually works best for you, rather than what exercises to avoid because you don’t want to be considered “inferior” (by yourself and others who harbour toxic masculinity).
Now apply it to the super rich, before their accountants get their “creative” hands on it.
Moroccans (and probably others) use cinnamon in savoury dishes like tagines and stuff, so not a terrible mistake to make!
I always enjoy the payoff of Lucky Number Slevin even after watching it a few times.
I know there are more but I’m struggling to think at the moment, I might have to come back to this…