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I use arch BTW
I use arch BTW
Hate how they handle photos. You can’t easily download your pictures like with Android you can just plug your phone into the computer and it becomes a hard drive you can mount and download them.
Thanks!
Maybe you haven’t noticed it, but many people are deeply irrational.
Thinking about why you’re fearful to ask her out is a way that you’re managing to avoid asking her out. Just ask her out OP. You’ll feel better afterwards.
You’re a perfectly normal man who has developed a social anxiety disorder. I might say that the cause was that you were traumatized, but if so I’d qualify it by saying it was a “small t” rather than a big one. All trauma has a similar structure to it but it is useful to differentiate between ordinary and extraordinary events that cause it to happen. Anyway, totally and boringly normal. You are not a loser, just a guy whose anxiety and shame have been turned up to 11 and subsequently has become avoidant of relationships.
Anxiety is perpetuated by avoidance. The more you avoid, the more mysterious and apparently dangerous that which you avoid will appear. The way out of it is to confront your fear by (in this case) asking women you find a bit interesting out for a date. When you do this your anxiety is going to ramp up fiercely. That’s your anxious part trying to “keep you safe” just like when a dog barks at the mailman. The “mailman” (eg., women) aren’t really dangerous but your “dog” thinks they are and so will growl and put you in the mindset to run away. When this happens, tell your anxious part that he is a good boi and a good “watchdog”, but also tell him that he isn’t in possession of the facts (and how could he be? He’s just a “dog”!). Tell him you’ve got this and then follow through with the dating. It will get easier with practice.
You’ve got this OP. You aren’t weird (just anxious and ashamed like half the population of the world). You just need to push through your anxiety by doing the thing you are afraid to do.
Candy Mountain, Charlie!
They bent us over rather than asking for consent.
Too plausible!
Some people would write books for free if they didn’t need to work to support themselves. Fame and the prestige of being a recognized expert are enough reward.
So how do you know who to trust?
The Beehaw devs are feeling the need to defederate right now due to that being the viable strategy for scaling their mod efforts. What would the solution be if they could not defederate?
Apparently so